For a successful marriage, to benefit those who are going to get
married and also for those who are already living a married life. How to
live a happy married life: How to make your marriage a
perfect conjugal bliss, marital bliss, connubial bliss, or a heavenly bliss: Follow simple steps:
You will definitely agree that happiness in your marriage is as
essential as food is for starvation. Perhaps you'd like to be happier in your
marriage, or you're thinking about getting married and you're looking for hints
and tips. Here's some good advice for living a happily married life.
It has been rightly said; Marriages are made in Heaven and
executed on earth. In normal course you marry to the one who is genetically
similar and acceptable to you. Science has also proved this. By your instincts,
you accept to marry your partner, only if your chemistry matches. Only then you
will like to be in the company of each other for all your life or be able to
stay together. Most of the arranged marriages are successful or have a higher
or better prospects of success, only because this aspect gets
taken care of by the elderly members of your families. Leave aside the
exceptions where the arranged marriages take place out of some selfish motives,
and some of the love marriages taking place without much understanding and
maturity.
Once you are married, the first and foremost is to respect each
other's views at all times. Give importance to each other’s views or opinion
and try to understand the reasons behind having the same. This is possible when
you thoroughly understand each other’s family background before marriage and
your upbringing from childhood. This is one of the important keys to make your
marriage really successful and blissful.
Give special and particular attention to what your spouse wants,
believes and likes. It would be ideal and advisable to work out a mutually
acceptable solution instead of any one of you insisting on his or her ideas. Do
not disappoint your partner, and if you do so unknowingly then keeping aside
your ego, say "I'm really very sorry” from the bottom of your heart, which
is a real truthful and sincere apology.
Effective communication is the key. Listen to each other properly,
and try to understand thoroughly what your partner wants to say. Do not
listen halfheartedly or partially and respond with your assumptions. Do not
create; however just avoid unnecessary disagreements and quarrels or fights.
Try to eliminate every situation that springs anger or quarrel. That is the
biggest setback. Be committed to make your marriage a marital bliss for the
benefit and better future of your children.
Get
feedback from each other as to what one dislikes of the other. Make every
effort to change, and better transform yourself. A mere change is very much distinct
from a transformation. A change is temporary and clearly not deep enough to the
depth of your identity. You will be right back to your old habits or behavior without
your notice as the time passes by. A change is reversible, whereas a
transformation is not. Transformation remains stable over time and there is no going back.
Please also note that you cannot have transformation without change, but you can
have change for a short time without transformation. Once transformed you
cannot reverse, however it will require another transformation to bring you
back to your old habits or behavior. This
will really help in making your marriage successful, stronger, working better, and make your marriage life happy. Help yourself in making your marriage blissful and merrier.
Both of you (husband and wife) should give highest importance and
support to each other over everything else. You and your spouse are bonded
permanently with each other as compared to anything else. Keep your bond strong
by showing true, genuine respect and consideration for each
other’s preferences over the needs and wishes of others.
Express your true love for each other as often as possible and say
“I love you”. Always start your day with a warm kiss or a hug.
Go on a long drive or an evening walk, and spend time with each other having only two of you alone. How can you know that you both are best tuned with each other? The answer is if you both are spending time with each other for hours together in the same room, without uttering even a word, on occasions such as when you are relaxed or on a holiday, or you have no plans to do anything special. Both of you may be doing different things reading, playing game on tab, or watching TV etc. This is one of the best test or the acid test to prove fine tuning between a husband and wife.
Go on a long drive or an evening walk, and spend time with each other having only two of you alone. How can you know that you both are best tuned with each other? The answer is if you both are spending time with each other for hours together in the same room, without uttering even a word, on occasions such as when you are relaxed or on a holiday, or you have no plans to do anything special. Both of you may be doing different things reading, playing game on tab, or watching TV etc. This is one of the best test or the acid test to prove fine tuning between a husband and wife.
Share your thoughts with each other decently and politely when you
plan to do something together. Do this with an open heart and without any
prejudices. Talk with each other with a totally free mind as if you are talking
to yourself. This would improve communication between you. Do not use harsh
words to hurt your spouse in anger or even unintentionally as they are hard to
forget especially for your spouse. If there is an argument then let it be on
the topic of discussion only and do not take the matter to attack personally on
each other. Never try to win any argument. If one of you is getting angry, the
other should keep restraint.
Live in the present and do not discuss and repeat the past
unpleasant experiences or utterances. Leave the past behind and be in the
present, and think of better future.
At times cook for your spouse or make tea or coffee. Same is true
for your spouse. Remember that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
Cook delicious food that your husband prefers the most, and remain in his heart
forever.
Husband and wife are ideally and spiritually are like one soul and
two bodies; if you hurt each other, you hurt yourselves as well.
Always do those little things for each other which brings smile on
your faces and gives you a feeling of being loved.
Help your spouse in household work eg. Keeping things in place and
making up the bed. At times surprise each other with little gifts or tokens of
appreciation, and make the moments very special and hard to forget. What
are important are your thoughts and not the price of gift. The gifts need not
be rich and expensive, even a chocolate cake is enough to make your memories
sweet and lasting forever. Don't forget to wish each other on the wedding
day anniversary. Your spouse's birthday is also most special and do wish her
with all your heart.
Honestly appreciate each other about the good qualities each one
of you has. Doing it otherwise will have negative impact in your life. Do not
compare your married life with others. The grass always looks to be greener on
the other side which is really not so.
If you cheat on your partner it will spoil your relationships, so
make sure to always be honest with your spouse! Do not ever think of anyone
else. This would ensure a happiest married life.
Follow everything and take this as a guarantee to get success in
making your marriage a conjugal bliss.
Get the blessings what Zaratrushta gave to his daughter (bride) and
to the son in law (bridegroom) – “May you each win the other through
righteousness, it would indeed be the greatest acquisition for each of you”.
One should never forget that marriage is a meeting of minds and
not merely bodies. Marriage is not a contract or agreement; it is a sacrament
or a holy binding and an eternal or perpetual bondage. Marriage is an
institution in which there is a social acceptance to interpersonal and sexual
relationship between a man and woman thus maintaining social order or
controlling social entropy. Though marriage is a gamble, a thorough and
holistic understanding of the hypothesis is the master key not just for making your marriage
happy or successful but to make it a happiest, heavenly or in short a marital
bliss or a conjugal bliss.
Definition, meaning and
explanation of conjugal bliss: Conjugal
refers to sex between couples with a relationship like marriage or the
sociology of marriage. Bliss means happiness. So, conjugal bliss refers to a
satisfying sexual relationship between couples in a relationship. Another similar word is
connubial bliss.
Conjugal happiness is the happiness expected out of a marriage. A
wedded couple can be said to enjoy a conjugal bliss if they lead a happy
married life, by loving each other and by remaining or being faithful to each
other. Conjugal rights are the rights a person gets as a result of marriage.
The conditions necessary for conjugal bliss include the married couple
accepting each other's views and each forgiving each other’s mistakes. If the
husband and wife are of divergent opinions and attitudes, and if their
personalities clash, then their marriage cannot last long and their conjugal
happiness becomes short-lived.
(Meaning reference as per the free
dictionary / cobuild dictionary / oxford dictionary)
Thank you very much.
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